| Tim Young 2003-03-26, 1:23 pm |
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Wow, you guys make my situation sound easy. I have a 10=20
year old son and he was diagnosed with ADHD about a year=20
and a half ago. I had trouble understanding why he did=20
the things he did. Most of the time it is his inability=20
to deal with situations with out falling apart. Like when=20
his 30mins is up on the computer, he can fall apart crying=20
and throwing a fit, losing in games, and the like. He=20
hasn't done anything too destructive except to himself. =20
My wife and I left food out over night two nights in a row=20
(we had both been up late, her with her credential work=20
and me on the last part of my MCSE). Both times he had=20
eaten the food, even after getting in a lot of trouble the=20
first time. It is hard to understand why he doesn't seem=20
to learn form this. Other wise he is an extremely sweet=20
kid, loves his sister above all else (His older sister=20
treats him like any 14 year old would treat a 10year old=20
brother...).
Sometimes its good to hear we are not alone, and thank God=20
for teachers and doctors that understand.
>-----Original Message-----
>"Grant Conrad" <gconrad@hotmail.com> wrote in message
> news:44ea01c2f3b7$02c3db30$a00
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>Thanks for the reply. It's nice (in a matter of speaking)
>to know I'm not alone in this. I can't imagine what it
>would be like if he wasn't even mine. That would be tough.
>I'd probably be in jail for murder.
>
>Did you switch format to Quoted Printable? It's not=20
quoting your replies.
>I did that for a while and got a lot of flak from people=20
in various NG's. I
>did it so I could post long URL's without line-wrap=20
problems, but it makes
>it a b!tch to reply to, so I stopped. Or has my QP=20
option somehow turned
>itself on with my last reply? As to being in jail for=20
murder, I've come
>close to that myself. Things can get physical in our=20
household, but so far
>I've managed to keep the peace.
>
>"Special Attention" Is that the kind Homer gives Bart when
>he wraps his hands around Barts throat? : )
>
>It takes a Saint. Saint Homer.
>
>My twins have been great. However, That actually scares me
>to death. Until about the age of 4, David was awesome.
>Everyone always said "your so lucky to have such a good
>baby" Heh! He's made up for those days 10-fold.
>
>Let's hope it doesn't turn out like ours. What=20
medication is he on? Zach
>was on Ritalin for a while. It affected his appetite,=20
and we really didn't
>get to benefit from it at all. He was only on his dosage=20
during school
>hours, since it is a stimulant and would keep him awake=20
at night if taken
>late in the evening, and we kept him off it on weekends,=20
too. What really
>got my wife and I was his teachers complaining about him,=20
when they got the
>benefit of him being medicated... if they only had to=20
deal with him off his
>meds like we did. The meds made all the difference in=20
the world, at least
>to us. We later switch him to Adderol since it was=20
supposed to last longer.
>It worked fine, but when he came down off the meds at=20
home, he was absolute
>hell to deal with. It made him aggressive and=20
confrontational, but looking
>back, that could have just been his teenage hormones. It=20
got really bad
>with him, though, so we took him off meds altogether. =20
He's been med-free
>for several years now. In retrospect, that might have=20
been a major mistake,
>since he was off meds with us at home anyway, it didn't=20
affect us, except to
>remove some of what we perceived to be the over-
agressiveness, but it did
>seem to affect his education. He got worse and worse in=20
school, barely
>passing some classes he used to be good at, like math,=20
and failing many
>others. I've lost count of how many times he'd gotten=20
suspended at school.
>Kids like that, it's easy to push their buttons, it=20
wasn't always his fault,
>IMO.
>
>I know what you mean about the friends too. Nice when you
>find out, all-too-late that you weren't invited to some
>event because they didn't want you to bring your kid.
>
>My wife and I were hurt about that a lot. We'd find=20
out "accidentally" that
>very close friends made a point to exclude us, and we=20
know why. I've never
>confronted those friends about it, either. I'm just not=20
as close to most of
>them as I used to be.
>
>I do feel terrible for David because your right, He truly
>doesn't understand why he does the things he does. Then it
>is like a broken light switch though. there are the "on"
>days and then there are the, all more common "OFF!" days.
>when he is on its like he's a different kid. And I mean
>WOW!
>
>Zach is almost 18, and he still plays with action figures=20
and watches
>Saturday morning cartoons, like Pokemon and (believe it=20
or not) Power
>Rangers. The kid is so big, he could be an offensive=20
lineman for the UF
>Gators. Emotionally, he's half his age. He's actually=20
quite bright,
>though, and much more creative than me. I can't stand to=20
be around him, yet
>I truly feel sorry for him at the same time.
>
>You ever watch your kid sit in the yard pulling the grass
>out by himself because he has managed to piss off every
>other kid in the neighborhood? That'll tear your hart out.
>By your response I'm sure you know all too well what I
>mean.
>
>I was active in scouting most of my life, and was going=20
to try to get Zach
>to join the scouts, but my wife discouraged it. This was=20
when I only knew
>them a short time. I know now why she discouraged it. =20
She was right. It
>really is sad.
>
>It'll be a while before he is bigger than me but I can't
>wait. ; )
>
>Well, you have to wait at least until they're eighteen to=20
punch them in the
>nose. I mean you'll probably wind up in the slammer=20
either way, but when
>they're technically minors, it's worse.
>
>I haven't had to change schools "yet" but I am in constant
>communication with them and they are aware of his
>condition. They do what they can. Its a good school system
>and depending on the teacher he has good and bad times. He
>has been suspended from the bus on occasion which plays
>hell on my wife and me since we then have to figure out
>who gets to mess up their work schedule to play taxi.
>
>My poor wife plays taxi to us all. I'm legally blind,=20
and surrenderred my
>driver's license three years ago. In Florida, you get a=20
learner's permit at
>fifteen (I'd like to shoot the son-of-a-b!tch who passed=20
that legislation)
>and because of Zach's attitude, he's had a learner's=20
permit all this time,
>and only a couple of months of driving experience. I=20
cannot understand
>this. If my parents said straighten your XXX up, or you=20
don't drive, I'd
>have kissed royal butt to drive, but it never phased=20
Zach. I have yet to
>discover a effective punishment of any kind. If I ever=20
do, I'll publish it
>and get rich. Anyway, my wife has to drive me to work=20
(28 mile round trip),
>our twins to elementary, and Zach to his school. She=20
spends about as much
>time on the road every day as I spend working.
>
>Thanks again for chatting with me about this.
>It does help. I may need to host a news group on this
>topic, Hmm....
>
>alt.parenting.twins-triplets - been there for years.
>
>misc.kids - been there a couple of years. Whenever I=20
feel like self-abuse,
>I reply to posts about naughty subjects like breast-
feeding and such.
>
>A potential "True" friend,
>Grant
>
>I think we're long lost twin brothers...
>
>
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